I had occasion to be in a new hardware store recently looking for an unusual faucet configuration. I was assisted by Ruth. She was quite young, diminutive and demure – not the stereotypical plumbing expert.
She did however, manage to find a faucet that met all my desires, a remarkable achievement for any sales person.
As she rang up the order in the old-fashioned hardware store, I noticed her wedding ring. It could hardly be called a wedding band, since it was so skimpy as to be barely more than a piece of wire. If I shook hands with her and gave her a manly grip, it would squash it out of round.
And the “rock” wouldn’t even qualify as a pebble. I can’t say as I have ever seen a diamond that tiny in all my life.
Everything about Ruth said she was a lovely girl, a wonderful catch. She walked with a quiet dignity in a man’s world, not trying to compete yet holding her own well. She gave evidence of having depth in other areas and had a gentle, reassuring smile. Her husband married a treasure.
I wonder what he thought when he looked at that ring on her finger. How much did it grieve him that this was all he could afford? How much did it grate on him that his bride had to work in a rough environment for them to make ends meet? Did he feel like less of a man when looking at other brides who flashed a bigger rock on their finger?
I just know that I honor him immensely, sight unseen, for two things. The first is he risked big because he believed in himself and his dreams. Clearly it was a risk for them to begin marriage so young, so broke. But . . . he did. I like him for that.
I am not encouraging every young person to go out and get married thoughtlessly. I am simply saying that I know ten thousand people who have a dream and they are not moving on it because there are major risks involved, and they are waiting for better time, a better team, a better something, and will probably still be waiting when their opportunity is over.
Against that backdrop, it was refreshing to find someone who surely bucked the advice of the people around them and embraced risk to follow his dream. I wish I could meet him.
Second, I appreciate the fact that he did not violate principles at the foundation of pursuing his dream simply because doing it right was hard. I am sure both of them have a lot of peers who just moved in with each other, instead of getting married.
I attract dreamers – mostly frustrated ones. The stories all run together after a while in a grievous sameness. “God called me to . . . but . . .” and time after time, a few questions lead us back to crippling choices years ago that have never been acknowledged or corrected.
Ruth and her husband won’t have that crippling ball and chain of one wrong principle choice that holds them back.
I’ve never met Ruth’s husband, but I think the world of him. I think he is a highly honorable man.
Copyright November 2012 by Arthur Burk
Airborne over Bryan Texas, home bound